10 ways to cheer up a breast-feeding wife
Breast-feeding can be exhausting. Well, at least with my eight-month-old daughter, it is. She can be restless, especially since she likes to explore her surroundings, often trying to eat our puzzle rubber mat.
I’ve seen how taxing it is for my wife. Wishing to be of help to her, I attempted pumping milk from my breast and even suckle my baby. Disappointing results.
So I thought of other options. I’m sure there are a lot of others depending on a couple’s means and situation. Husbands may consider these tips:
1. Give your wife a massage. Massaging yourself doesn’t feel as good as being massaged by somebody else. And it requires energy from the massager. That’s where you come in. Even though work at the office is exhausting too, giving your wife a massage will be greatly appreciated.
2. Prepare her favorite drink. Sometimes it takes just simple gestures of thoughtfulness to make your wife happy. This one is easy to do. But no alcoholic drinks please.
3. Help with the house chores. If you have house help, good for you. But if you don’t, please consider that breast-feeding is a major “house chore.” So it may be a good idea for you to do some of the other chores. Your wife will be grateful.
4. Do her a favor. There are times when your wife still has work or must do some errands for other people. You can offer to do them. Just trying to be helpful will help ease the burden on your wife.
5. Bring her out on a date. This won’t be exactly like the dates you’ve had before. If you can have the in-laws or the yaya look after baby for a few hours, you can have dinner or perhaps watch a movie. Of course you can also take baby with you.
6. Compliment her on doing a good job. Your wife needs this. She needs to feel that she’s doing something important. You can show your appreciation with a few words and little effort on your part.
7. Put baby to sleep. This depends on the baby. Some babies only like their moms to put them to sleep. But still, you can try. Some babies take a long time to sleep and you may have to sing a lot of lullabies and perhaps do some dancing. Be prepared.
8. Have time for baby. It’s important for you to have time for baby. Play with her, read to her or sing to her. As the Bible says, there’s a time to reap, a time to sow, and a time to bond with baby.
9. Help your wife with breast-feeding at night. Babies wake up at night when they’re thirsty. If they could, they would just walk to the fridge and get a refreshing drink. But for babies, the fridge is mommy. The breast milk is their refreshing drink. Since your baby will just cry as she tries to locate mommy’s breast, you can help baby locate her fridge. The good thing about this is that mommy can breast-feed while lying on her side.
10. Give your wife a kiss and a hug. This doesn’t cost a centavo and it probably takes just a few joules of energy. Just remember that formula feeding costs thousands of pesos a month, which means you have to work harder to make money. And you have to do a lot of cleaning bottles too.
If you have other useful tips, you can share them here.
Below are the links to the articles written by those who joined the Milk Mama Diaries Carnival:
Em’s Aria’s Habits While Breastfeeding (my wife’s entry)
Mec’s Top Ten Breastfeeding Partners
Ichel’s Ten Things a Handy Mommy Can Do While Breastfeeding
Espie’s Ten Life Altering Moments of a New Breastfeeding Mom
Dinna’s Nurturing Rafael: A Breastfeeding Mother’s Top 10 List
Frances’ Ten Things I Now Know About Breastfeeding Because I Breastfed
Cai’s Top Ten Tips for Pumping and Working Moms
Jenny’s Our Breastfeeding Library
Nat’s My Top 10 Favorite Foods for the Breastfeeding Mom
Tina’s Tips on How to Breastfeed Your Baby in Public (1st of three parts)
Nyssa’s Ten Reasons I still Breastfeed (Even as a Low Supply Mom)
Joey’s Nursing Must haves and cheaper alternatives
Martine’s 10 Things You Don’t Say to a Breastfeeding Mom